Monday, October 5, 2009

Saying "No"

Do you ever find that what you're saying with your mouth and what you're saying in your head do not match at all?

Like when you say "yes" but you'd much rather say "no"?

And I don't mean to your kids when they want another cookie.

I mean to adults - to your friends, your family, your co-workers, etc.?

I have a hard time saying "no."

It's usually because I don't want to disappoint anyone or because I'm concerned about what people will think.

I've gotten better at it since Dawson was born, simply because I had to say it because caring for him was more important, but it still nags at me. I've also gotten better at not automatically providing an excuse for when I do say "no", so I guess that's progress.

I'm beginning to think it's a girl thing - because I know many of my friends struggle with this, and I know NO MAN who has a problem with it.

If this is you, how do you get over it and just say "no"?



Megan L Hutchings said...

Amen! Amen! Amen!

Please KNOW that you can say NO to me anytime. You KNOW I will understand!

I think it is b/c we have such high expectations of ourselves and want to please EVERYONE!

Meagan said...

I have a hard time with no as well. I have, however, gotten A LOT better at it since I started teaching (and got tenure, lol). A challenge for me, as you mentioned, is the not giving an excuse. I shouldn't have to justify saying no and that's hard for me to do for some reason!

Michelle said...

I have a HUGE problem with that, but you will find the older you get that it will be easier. You adjust your thinking process some.

I am realy bad about saying NO. But still to this day I do have a problem with that with my kids .

In time it just gets easier and easier though.

Whitney said...

I have the same problem! I always think I can do it all and I want everyone else to think that too! Ha! I'm anxious to see everyone's answers!

Lauren Kelly said...

Girl, I sooooo struggle with the same thing!!!!